ADHD teacher for ADHD students?

You know, I used to think that if someone was 41 years old, intelligent, and successful, there was no chance they had ADHD, right? Well, it turns out that you can indeed be smart and accomplished while also facing ADHD challenges, just like I do. As many of you know, I deal with ADHD, anxiety, and mild dyslexia—a whole mix of neurological issues.

Recently, I've received numerous inquiries about ADHD, and I wanted to address them. For instance, Laura wrote, "Matt, I heard in a couple of your videos that you have ADHD. When did you realize it, what are the positive aspects, how has it held you back, and what strategies do you use to manage it?"

Thank you for your question, Laura. So, when did I first realize I had ADHD? Believe it or not, I'm 41, and I only discovered this two years ago. At 41, I was diagnosed with ADHD, and here's a funny story: shortly after my diagnosis, my 10-year-old son had a pediatrician appointment, where we were testing him for ADHD. When his results came back positive, I jokingly told our paediatrician, "Well, I know who he got it from." I had just been diagnosed, and he looked at me and said, "Matt, you were just diagnosed—what do you mean?" I explained that I found out only a month prior. He then said, "I've known you for 16 years. You are the textbook definition of ADHD." I replied, "Mark, why didn't you tell me?" He responded, "Because I'm not your doctor, and I assumed you were already being treated."

When I was diagnosed, it was quite a surprise because, for me, ADHD was synonymous with a hyperactive little boy unable to sit still in class. I wasn't aware that ADHD also affects girls and women. However, upon researching ADHD, you might be surprised to learn that it impacts men and women equally. A group of psychiatrists and psychologists has identified a lost generation of women like me. So, if you're a woman feeling disorganized, forgetful, easily distracted, or scattered, there’s a chance you might have ADHD, and it would be wise to consult your doctor about it.

Now, I'm not a doctor, so I can't diagnose anyone, but I can share my experiences. I used to think that being 41, smart, and successful meant I couldn't possibly have ADHD. Yet, it's entirely possible to be both accomplished and face ADHD challenges, just like I do. For a long time, the Psychiatric Association defined ADHD based on how it is presented in boys, while the manifestations in girls can be quite different. Instead of being hyperactive, they might daydream, struggle to follow instructions and be disorganized.

As a result, many girls go undiagnosed, which can lead to anxiety and depression. Why does this happen? When you have ADHD and lack effective treatment or coping strategies, it’s easy to start feeling inadequate. You may become critical of yourself for being disorganized and feel hopeless about getting things done. That’s exactly what happened to me—I was diagnosed with anxiety at 36, missing the ADHD diagnosis, which instead manifested as anxiety and depression, overshadowing my untreated ADHD.

Receiving my ADHD diagnosis at 41 was both surprising and empowering, giving me a way to understand how my mind works. It allowed me to develop self-compassion and stop criticizing myself, accepting that I have a neurological condition that contributes to my disorganization, forgetfulness, and distractibility.

Now, what are the positive aspects of this? I have gained more empathy for myself and can laugh when I walk into the kitchen and find the faucet still running because I forgot to turn it off. As for the ways it has held me back, I believe it has been the root of my long-term anxiety. I have many unfinished projects from college, law school, and various jobs.

What strategies do I use to cope?

• First and foremost, I recommend seeing a professional. Having a doctor to discuss ADHD with has been immensely valuable in understanding my thought processes and the effective strategies I should implement for success.

• After consulting with a professional, it’s important to educate yourself. I highly recommend Ned Hallowell's book, "Driven to Distraction," and John Ratey's work on the links between exercise, ADHD, and mental health.

I take Adderall, but not every day. I find it helpful in situations where I need to focus intensely, like during long flights or when facing tight deadlines. While some may misuse it, I have found it to be a lifesaver for me.

• Another significant aid in managing my ADHD has been exercise. I notice that after a good workout, I often experience a period of heightened focus.

• Lastly, I've become very mindful of the connection between my gut health and ADHD. I prioritize a healthy diet because indulging in excessive carbs, sugar, or alcohol tends to worsen my distractibility and focus.

I hope this information helps. If you're feeling disorganized, easily distracted, or constantly critical of yourself, I hope this encourages you to talk to your doctor about the possibility of ADHD. The reality is that you can be smart, and successful, and still face ADHD challenges. The good news is that there are many simple strategies you can implement to reduce suffering and improve your focus and productivity.